Letting Go: Friendships

Friendships are part of everybody’s lives. And if you ask me, friendships are big and important parts of people’s lives! They namely help shape us into the person we’ll become – they help us grow and develop. In short, friends are there through the good and the bad times. True friendships are not only loyal as well as trusting but offer a helping hand and a shoulder to cry on at all times…


However, like any relationship, friendships can outgrow. Because, as we grow as human beings and further develop, we might grow apart from personal relations. People, simply, come and go – it’s the circle of life, if you must. So even though some relations might last a life time, far from all of them actually do. In my opinion, it doesn’t help to mourn the loss of a friend. Instead, it’s better to remember and be thankful for the value they brought to your life: Lessons they taught you you, ways in which they helped you grow and develop and the love you shared. Because, even if this is a sad happening, it wasn’t for nothing and there’s no shame of growing apart – especially not when you both grow for the better.

Although I’m far from religious, I have come to believe that there’s a reason with everything – good and bad. I believe we’re destined to meet certain people in our life time – people that for better and worse play parts in our personal development as human beings. Some people, I believe, are destined to leave our lives again in order to teach us a lesson – a lesson we need later on in life, a lesson we wouldn’t be without. However, because of the role they played in our lives, they will always hold a special place in our hearts and will never truly be forgotten. So…when you as friends grow apart, I strongly believe that it’s not necessarily a bad thing: It namely means that you’ve grown and further developed as a person – hopefully for the better and in line with your personal wishes and goals for the future you. As a result, it’s okay to let it go! Truth is, it’s better to let go than to hold on to something that has become demanding to maintain and eventually even fake.

What do you think about this topic? Do you agree? Why/ why not? Or don’t you agree at all? What are your personal experiences with friendships?

xo P!

11 thoughts on “Letting Go: Friendships

  1. Absolutely. Everyone we meet in life are there to teach us something, good or bad, it’s for a reason. Some people come into your life for a reason. And some for a season. Some people you have to cut off though. I’m going through that now. It’s all for the better though. Great post !

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  2. Thought Provoking post Pernnille and lots of truth here. I had a ‘friend’ many years ago who used to drain me with her negativity. I was always there for her but eventually it became so one sided that I drifted away from her. I don’t have a lot of friends but the ones I do have are precious. I truly believe it’s about quality and not quantity.

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  3. I absolutely agree. I believe not only that everything happens for a reason, but that every person happens for a reason. It’s amazing to look back on a relationship gone wrong and see the lesson in it. Each individual makes us wiser, and we grow from our interactions.

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  4. You said this perfectly. I always felt I never fit in, so there weren’t too many friends in my life. Sometimes the “friends from the past” thought comes just as fast as it goes. [I’ve backspaced the rest out so many times I’ll just end it the way it is] 🙂

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  5. Great post Pernnille, I used to hang on to friendships that had already dwindled. The older I get the more I understand how fruitless it is to do so. Then, I have friends from my childhood I haven’t seen for 20 years but still can easily share everything with them. Thank goodness for FB! 😀

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  6. I had lunch this past weekend with three friends I have known for 38 years, 31 years, and 24 years respectively. We know each other inside and out and accept our differences because the friendship trumps sameness. That being said, many people, through their choice or mine, haven’t remained in a connecting orbit. I may still love them, but our paths diverged and their wasn’t enough there to keep us together. I treasure all my long-time, short-time, any-time friends.

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  7. I have written something similar! I totally get where you are coming from. The post is very relatable. Friends do come and go for a reason and I try to look to accept it and appreciate it when it is there and accept it when it goes 😊

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