In general, people tend to be happier and maybe even more fulfilled in a romantic relationship. However, being single can lead to great personal development and growth if you decide to explore yourself, your passions and your dreams.
Although I am now in a happy relationship, I wouldn’t have traced the longer period of time being single with anything! Being single, namely, helped me develop my independence as well as needs and wants while growing into a woman. Truth is, I don’t feel like I need a man in my life. So when I despite this feeling chose to be with one, it’s because I can’t help it. Some people, however, are going from one romantic relationship to another because they don’t like being alone – they might even fear it. However, there are so many good lessons to learn from being single – lessons that help you grow and develop as a person:
- Love isn’t bound to a romantic relationship – love is bound to all relationships (and places). It isn’t a state of being but a state of feeling. As such, you can find love everywhere.
- You don’t need anyone else to validate your worth. By exploring yourself and the world with all the fantastic people and places in it, you learn about yourself: You learn to see the value you have – your own self-worth, so to say.
- You can accomplish so much on your own and find your way without having a special somebody in your life that you have to consider for your every move. What do you feel like? Do it! Explore, experience, learn, gain perspective and understanding.
- Amazing things can happen when you keep an open mind and follow your heart – have faith in and trust yourself.
- Alone time is underestimated – alone time is recovery time! We all need to reflect upon people and situations in our lives, alone time gives us that chance: Quiet reflection and powerful insight and understanding.
- You have more time to concentrate on your friendships and strengthen these. Through other people, there is a lot to learn about yourself as well.
- You are more aware of yourself and what you need and want in a romantic relationship in the future. No rush, you can wait for someone who feels right for you.
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What do you think? What are your experiences being single? What have you learned by being single?
xo P!
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You can also do what you want, eat where you want, have your own timetable, etc.
I’m never not single, so I don’t know what the other side of the coin is!
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This is a wonderful self-validating post. It’s so important to have a healthy sense of self before committing to someone else.
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I’ve been single for a year, and I really appreciate the freedom and independence to live on my own terms after being committed for a long time! I can’t see myself entering another for a while because I’m too focused on my own goals! You’re right it’s bad to leap from one relationship to another, I feel it undermines relationships and love and stops people from truly appreciating something special when it comes along!
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I love this! When half of my family always ask “Got a boyfriend? In a relationship?” You don’t half feel pressured into one for all the wrong reasons! But you’re in a relationship with yourself for a lot longer than anyone else 🙂
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Well said!
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Since I have been single, I have settled in one place, purchased a house, made new friends, grown as a professional and a writer/editor, and created new adventures. It has been a positive time, teaching me that I am great on my own. Still, the right relationship would enhance all of that and give birth to something more.
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Avesome
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I love being single, but I hate the stigma and questions that go with it!
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I’ve been single for quite a long time now and totally relate to this and agree with the good that can come from it, especially in terms of how it makes you more self-aware and actually stronger in yourself too. x
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